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Abdul Rahman | Mar 19, 08 4:14pm I refer to the Malaysiakini report Umno holds one-hour protest at Komtar. Truthfully, I voted for BN in the 12th GE for Pak Lah and Umno in the hope that the Penang state will remain in BN's hands. So did many of my friends here in Kepala Batas. The people of Penang, however, voted for the opposition, so be it. The protests made by Azhar Ibrahim in Penang is causing embarrassment for us, the Penang Malays, and is uncalled for. The other component BN parties from the other races don't behave that way. Why is Umno being a sore loser ? If we have lost, it's time we review what can be done to change and make Penang better in the hope that BN will be able to capture Penang back in the next GE. Instead we show our frustration by calling for all the projects to be stopped which is detrimental to the people of Penang. Hey! I am staying in Penang (not in Penang Island itself though) and hope all these projects will benefit the rakyat. Fortunately, Pak Lah did not heed this unsound advice by these people. Will all these protests help us Malays? These Umno leaders are causing anxiety for the people of Penang. They are not listening to the rakyat and continue to be arrogant. In fact, it makes me angry as well despite being a BN supporter to see these protests. No wonder many Penang Malays supported DAP, PKR or PAS. Generally ,we Malays are well-behaved as we are taught to be religious and respect others. Penang Umno should focus on the the proper things and be a respected ‘opposition’ in Penang. Please stop being childish and focus on more important issues or else Umno will lose more of its Malay supporters to PKR or PAS in the future. We tell Hindraf and some of these organisations that street protests are not our culture but we are doing the very thing we tell others not to. So what is the difference between Umno and these groups? I don't know what to say if my friends, Malay or non-Malay, ask me this question. This is a shame to us. If this simple thing we preach but cannot do ourselves. So how to talk about defending the NEP which is alleged by the opposition to benefit the Umnoputras and not bumiputeras. Will people listen to us? Sorry, my English may not be so good but I hope Penang Umno leaders will behave themselves and not create more embarrassment for us Penang Malays by holding street protests. Champion for the cause of the Malays in a proper manner. Four or five years is not very long to the next GE. Umno must change before the people of Penang totally vote for the opposition even in Malay majority areas in the next GE.
This article copy from Malaysiakini. Umran Kadir | Mar 19, 08 4:08pm I refer to the Malaysiakini report Umno holds one-hour protest at Komtar. ‘Don't create an atmosphere that can cause racial tensions,’ PM Abdullah Ahmad Badawi said to the Barisan Rakyat government in Penang. Perhaps he should be telling that to his supporters who held a demonstration outside the Komtar complex in Penang. Abdullah challenges the Penang State Government to show him "which community has been made poorer because of the NEP". A better indicator would be to determine which segment of Malaysian society has been enriched by the NEP and from there determine who has not benefitted from the NEP. Clearly, it has not sunk in to Abdullah and his henchmen yet that significant numbers of Malays themselves didn't vote for Umno or BN because they know that the NEP has only benefitted Badawi and his ilk. The recent elections has even been described by one prominent commentator as ‘a rebellion of card-carrying members (of Umno)’ which was brought on by their ‘plain disgust’ with the Abdullah administration. What greater indictment can Umno face than this? An end to or restructuring of the NEP in its present form will only disadvantage the elites who have benefitted from it to the detriment of all poor Malaysians. Conversely, it will assist poor Malaysians from all communities. This is plain as day - it is only Umno that wilfully denies this. The truth is that Umno themselves betrayed the poor Malays. Now they are trying to stoke racial tensions in an effort to drum up support for themselves. The Penang state government is not a Chinese government. Nor is it a DAP government. It is a Malaysian government and it must remain so. Perhaps Pak Lah and much of the rest of Umno don't understand yet that the time for racial politics is past. Pak Lah, when you said you intended to stay on despite BN's stellar losses I was willing to give you a second chance. I thought that since you had little to lose you might actually try and clean up Umno and BN. That you might actually try and keep some of those broken promises and perhaps leave something of a positive legacy. Was I wrong to trust you again? Lim Guan Eng's statement expressing a desire to end the NEP is no different than statements made by Anwar Ibrahim or PAS. What all Malaysians want, irrespective of their race or religion, is a system that assists all poor Malaysians. And this is what the Barisan Rakyat parties have promised us. Pak Lah, are you still the leader of Umno? You say that you are still the Prime Minister for all Malaysians. If you can't control the racists and troublemakers in your own party perhaps you should just quit now so that we Malaysians can get on with our lives. Malaysians are not going to be duped into falling for racial politics again. Racial politics is out of fashion Pak Lah. Get with the times or leave. The same goes for any other politician who relies on the divisive politics of race to secure support.
| Fuel price bound to go up | Thanneermalai Lakshmanan | Mar 18, 08 4:23pm
| | Despite the gains by the opposition and promises to reduce the fuel price in Malaysia, it will be hard to do so as there are several external factors in play as well. The current subsidised petrol price averages RM1.92 per litre which is low compared to most places e.g. US at RM3.10 (US$0.98) per litre, Singapore at RM4.40 (S$1.92), Hong Kong at RM6.50 and India at RM3.68 (Rs 46). (Source here). All along, Malaysia has produced more oil than we consume, thus the surplus is exported and the profits are partially used to subsidise petrol prices. All and well when there is a surplus. As time went by, our oil consumption gradually went up due to an increasing population and growing economy; and this is expected to continue rising. But our oil production actually peaked in 2004 while our oil exports peaked in 2003 at 362,000 barrels per day (bpd) went down to 251,000 bpd in 2005 and to 228,000 bpd in 2006. (See data here). At the current rate, we could become a net oil importer as early as 2009 or as late as 2011. What then? There will be no free flow of money from Petronas and therefore not only will subsidies have to be removed, but spending on mega-projects and throwing away of money to cronies will be curbed too. The point is, it doesn’t matter if we have 3 or 4.5 billion billion barrels of oil left or whether oil price hitting US$100 a barrel will translate to more money. What matters is whether we are producing more than we consume. When we do that, it will be impossible to continue offering subsidies. Hence, be prepared for petrol price to be in line with the rest of the world. A gradual increase of petrol price to RM4 to RM5 per litre can be expected over the next two years, no matter who runs the country. So, what’s the solution? After exploring many possibilities, my conclusion is to live more simply – drive less, walk, cycle and car-pool more. Petition our new and eager MPs to improve public transportation, improve our railway system, and rebuild neighbourhoods to ensure most amenities are within walking distance, etc. Globally, many solutions have been proposed to use various alternative energies but most of these are not feasible in the short-term due to scalability or deployment factors. For example, the much touted bio-diesel is extremely polluting and even if all the forests in the world were converted into plantations producing biodiesel, it won’t meet half our current needs. Furthermore in biodiesel made from palm oil, only 5% of it is palm oil, the rest is diesel from conventional oil. So palm oil will not replace diesel completely. You can read more here and here. So, it’s best to be prepared for change in lifestyle – this applies not just to Malaysians, but to all oil-dependent societies. |
 | 拿出勇气来 | Mar 11, '08 8:48 AM
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看了很多帖子，看到很多人开始"后悔"，开始对行动党的信心动摇，最常听到的理由就是说他们没有组织政府的经验。
某些人的天性就是这样咯，开始大大声投反对党，现在就开始抖，说他们没有经验。这就是常期在国阵控制媒体，限制言论，制造假国阵美好景象下的"反对党恐惧症候群"。一霎那之间，人好像忘记了过去国阵所干的种种恶行，又对他们想念起来了
在此很想说句：
1）经验是累计回来的，没有给机会他们，他们永远夜不会有经验。没有给机会他们，马来西亚永远也不会改变。
2）有50年经验的国阵，还能把马来西亚带去那里？ 他们的不公平政策，腐败，你还认为经验很重要吗？
3) 希望再发贴说新政府没经验的人，拿出勇气来，对自己投的票有信心，因为有全马来西亚投反对票的人做你的后盾。
当人人说回教党执政的吉兰丹生活惨不忍睹时我还真的相信了
结果亲眼去了丹州回来感觉却完全不同
吉兰丹那边的住户可以做到夜不关门,路不拾遗, 个个都很守规矩
严格的回教律法更让偷窃和抢劫消失干净....
那边的kampung生活水平虽然不高, 不过真的和乐融融....
这是我三天的总结...
不过我毕竟不是吉兰丹的华人居民, 不懂待遇如何.....
如今, 是行动党证明他们有能力为槟州带来改革的时候了, 机会我们已经给了, 就看他们的把握能力了
有些东西，有经验的人反而做不好，因为他老是顺着经验走
没经验的人就要用智慧，往另一方向走，反而走得更好，世上没有绝对的
让BN受点教训不更好，让他知道非士著也不是好欺负的，别以为最后一分钟才来派糖果我们就会把之前的都忘了
就是咯.....一直讲没经验
国阵有50年经验.....那么你们又认为他们做得如何?
如果一个没经验的政权要求每项工程都要进行透明的公开竞标........和另一个执政了50年的政权, 每项工程都在背后分猪肉, 把全部东西分给朋党, 一点也不给人民......你究竟要选那一个政权呢
对呀，那个时候刚刚独立更糟糕，完全没有经验。。。所以现在应该算很好了。
再说，林冠英应该有很多槟城的精英帮他的，放心！
如果执政党不听人民的心声，纵然有经验和很了解民生也没有用。
我们要加油，给个机会他们吧，你找工的时候人家也没说你没经验而放弃你哦。。。
不要给巫统捉住我们那种贪生怕死的痛脚！
| 永远有多远？ | Jan 20, '08 10:49 PM
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永远有多远？
是一个永恒，还是瞬间？
永远？可不可以告诉我，永远有多远？
永远到底有多远？
有时候永远也就是生和死的距离。
因为你给我说过，要好好的活。也许在你的心里，好好的活着，就是永远了。 永远是花开花谢 还是潮起潮落?
永远是日生日落 还是人来人往 ?
或是.....或许永远就是当你紧紧将我拥抱的那一瞬间
而当我决定放开你那双苍白的双手 望着你孤独落寞的背影
永远也变成了一只短翅的蝴蝶....!
恍然间我明白了 当你离开我的时候 永远也成了一只断翅的蝴蝶! 永远有多远”，我无法回答，久久，竟然泪湿了脸庞。 心，就象过去一样狠痛起来。永远有多远啊？
也许这也是我一直想问的问题，只是因为知道没有答案，就甚至问都不敢问。 永远到底有多远?
不止一次 你这样的问我
我不敢给你轻言任何承诺
因为承诺对我们来说太沉重
因为我知道我们没有未来
教堂的那头并不是我们的最终
从相识的那天起 就早注定了
我们两个只是两条平行的直线
我不敢轻言永远 当你望着我的时候
我唯有保持沉默 要爱一个人到永远，伤心到永远，那种锥心的疼到永远，
这永远，到底有多远？是不是真的要用一生去爱一个人的同时，
也要用这一生去忘记同一个人？直到生命的尽头…… 谁又知道，承诺的永远有多远，心疼的永远又有多远？爱又有多远？ 落叶归根，可在这样一个起风的日子里，
叶子会飘落何处？何处才是它的终点？
风啊，不要吹的太猛了，让叶子归根吧！
云啊，不要走的太快了，叶子跟不上你的步伐。
时不时的，天空又飘起了雪，
是在告诉叶子这个时节有多冷吗？
叶子停不下来了，风不停的在吹，云不断的在走，
雪花都已经漫天飞舞了，
叶子好冷、好累……
永远到底有多远，
叶子有永远吗？叶子的永远又在哪里？ 作者：航空
| 一种情绪 | Jan 10, '08 9:11 AM
for everyone |
有一种情绪
从我懂事起就已形成
它潜伏在灵魂的最深处
有一种情绪，在血液里奔涌
常常使感情泛滥
澎湃我的理智
有一种情绪，使我不得不
住在思念里生活
明知是虚掩的一道门
却没勇气推开
有一种情绪，经常
飘落到燃烧的烟头上
若明若暗地痛苦
有一种情绪，促使我接近一棵
会说话的树
一切还未仔细观察
却早已变成沉甸甸的诗句
有一种情绪，在生活的最寂寞处
架设起全频道天线
为我接收一个若有若无的声音
有一种情绪，使我渐渐懂得了
一个人，仅仅是半个圆
要想在世界上顺畅地滚动起来
必须找到相吻合的另一半
在你心中有这样的一个人吗？
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你们可能相爱过，你们也可能喜欢着彼此，
但是，为了什么原因你们没能在一起？
也许他为了朋友之间的义气，不能追你。
也许为了顾及家人的意见 ，你们没有在一起。
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也许为了出国深造，他没有要你等他。
也许你们相遇太早，还不懂得珍惜对方。
也许你们相遇太晚，你们身边已经有了另一个人。
也许你回头太迟，对方已不再等待。
也许你们彼此在捉摸对方的心，而迟迟无法跨出界线。
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不过即使你们没在一起，你们还是保持了朋友的关系。但是你们心底清楚，对这个人，你比朋友还多了一份关心。即使不能跟他名正言顺的牵着手逛街，你们还是可以做无所不谈的朋友。他有喜欢的人，你口头上会帮他追，心里却不是很清楚你是不是真的希望他追到。
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他遇到困难时，你会尽你所能的帮他，不会计较谁又欠了谁。男女朋友吃醋了，你会安抚他们说你和他只是朋友，但你心中会有那么一丝的不确定。每个人这辈子，心中都有过这么一个特别的朋友，很矛盾的行为。一开始你不甘心只做朋友的，但久了，突然发现这样最好。 你宁愿这样关心他， 总好过你们在一起而有天会分手。
你宁愿做他的朋友，彼此不会吃醋，才可以真的无所不谈。
特别是这样，你还是知道，他永远会关心你的。做不成男女朋友，当他那个特别的朋友，有什么不好呢？你心中的这个特别的朋友...? 是谁呢？ 很多的感情，都因为一厢情愿，最后连朋友都当不成了，常常觉得惋惜，可惜一些本来很好的友情，最后却因为对方的一句喜欢你，如果你没有反应，这一段友情似乎也难以维持下去，这也难怪有些人会因此不肯踏出这一步。 因 为这就像是一场赌注，表白了之后不是成了男女朋友，要不就连朋友都当不成了。有些事不是你能预料的，或许对方不在意，你们还可以是朋友，但却已经不如从前 的好。也是可惜，也是遗憾！但还有没有可能是另一种情况，你可能永远都不甘心只是朋友. . . . .
In June 1998, the government of Malaysia had hired a team of experts from across the continent to be gather here in Malaysia for a research project to compliment the history studies that we undertaken in our secondary school.
The objective of the research is simply:
1. To find prove and evident that show the Malays are the origins of Malaysia and they are the first race and religion that lands their foot in Malaysia.
2. To further strengthen their claims, first they need to find the grave yard of the Hang Tuah, Hang Jebat, Hang Lekiu and etc..to show the existant of their pioneer.
3. The Batu bersurat in Terengganu, reveals that the islamic religion has landed in malaysia for a hundred years ago which further strengthen their claims!
That is why, we are taught with sejarah (history of malaysia)!!!!
BEWARE & OPEN YOUR EYES!!! go ask your brother, sister, niece, nephew and etc. etc, since the year 1999 (if i'm not mistaken) or year 2000,
do they study about HANG TUAH anymore????????
Why is that popular subject GONE????? Missing in action???????
or evidence reveals something different that causes the government to stop the syllabus and HIDE the TRUTH????????
*Here are the Evidences of the findings by the team of scientists, archaeologist, historian and other technical staff from the United States, United Kingdom, Germany, Canada, Yemen & Russia. *
*The evidence are: *
1) They finally found the grave yard of Hang Tuah, Hang Jebat and etc..., their skeleton had been analise and samples of DNA had been taken
with the results show: Hang Tuah, Hang Jebat, hang Lekiu and mates, they are NOT MALAY!!!!!! they are CHINESE (islamic)from china!!! and why are they
here in Malacca????? because they are in a misison to protect the UNGRATEFUL MALAY from the potential attack of SIAM (Thailand)!!!
So Hang tuah is not malay hero!!! they are the protector of the useless and ungrateful Parameswara (who is from INDONESIA) landed in Malacca
and claim the land belongs to him!!!
The hang tuah bunch of people are all from china, they are being assign to malacca because parameswara request the Ching Dynasty Emporer for
protection!!!
This is why the Hang Tuah series of history is MISSING from SEJARAH!!!!
*2nd. Evidence: *
The researchers hired by the government found the oldest tomb stone(grave yard) in Kelantan in year 2000. Suprisingly the tomb stone are at least 900 years old!!!! older than the so-called batu bersurat. and the best thing is, it belong to the CHINESE!!!!!!!!
Being landed first in Malacca doesn't mean malay is the first in Malaysia cos during that time, the road is too long for them to see the other side of the coast!!! where the chinese has landed far more earlier. If you want the black and white evidence of the truth reveals please write to the The Federal Association of Arc & Research of Michigan, USA.
You don't have to improve or change or strive for perfection. Quite the opposite. Just accept. That means accepting all the warts and emotional lumps and bumps, the bad bits, the weaknesses and the rest of it. This doesn't mean we are happy with everything about ourselves, or that we are going to be lazy and lead a bad life. We are going to accept the way we are, initially, and then build on that. What we are not going to do is beat ourselves up because we don't like some bits. If you accept that what's done is done, you are left with yourself exactly as you are. You can't go back and change anything, so you've got to work with what you've got. I'm not suggesting anything New Age here such as love yourselfâthat's far too ambitious. No, let's begin with simple accepting. Accepting is easy because it is exactly what it saysâaccepting. You don't have to improve or change or strive for perfection. Quite the opposite. Just accept. That means accepting all the warts and emotional lumps and bumps, the bad bits, the weaknesses and the rest of it. This doesn't mean we are happy with everything about ourselves, or that we are going to be lazy and lead a bad life. We are going to accept the way we are, initially, and then build on that. What we are not going to do is beat ourselves up because we don't like some bits. Yes, we can change lots, but that will come later. We're only up to Rule 4 here. This has to be a Rule because there can be no choice here. We have to accept that we are the way we areâthe result of everything that has happened. It all just is. You, like me, like all of us, are human. That means you're pretty complex. You come fully loaded with desires, anguish, sins, pettiness at times, mistakes, ill temper, rudeness, deviation, hesitation, and repetition. That's what makes a human being so wonderful, the complexity. None of us can ever be perfect. We start with what we've got and who we are, and then we can only make a choice, each day, to strive for some kind of better. And that's all they can ask of usâto make that choice. To be awake and aware, to be ready to do the right thing. And accept that some days you aren't going to make it. Some days you will, like all of us, fall far short. That's okay, don't beat yourself up. Pick yourself up and start again. Accept that you will fail from time to time and that you are human. I know it can be hard at times, but once you have picked up the gauntlet of becoming a Rules Player, you're well on the path to improvement. Stop finding fault with yourself, or giving yourself a hard time. Instead, accept that you are what you are. You're doing the best you can at this point in time, so give yourself a pat on the back and press on.
| By: Nisandeh Neta
Jun 19, 2004, 22:01 | Â | We don't have to wait till Valentine's Day to think about relationships, whether we're in one or would like to be. Most people would agree that romance is the key element beneath the relationship pot. Be it a steamy, sizzling wok or a warm, steady slow-cooker, romance is the flame that generally gets-and keeps-the heat of love alive. But what exactly is "romance"? When my wife and I were dating, we were ultra-romantic in the usual sense of the word. There were roses, love letters, surprise gifts, spontaneous adventures, and hours upon hours of talking and... you know, that other stuff. To be honest, though, some of the initial romantic heat has cooled off a bit. Like couples everywhere, we find ourselves pressured by the demands of daily life: work, children, finances, household chores and commitments to extended family. Yet, through all our years together, we have somehow found a way to balance these things. And while our definition of romance has changed somewhat according to our altered circumstances, we still manage to keep our relationship fresh and exciting. White-hot all-consuming passion has melted into love, consideration and affection. But most of all, romance for us has become a way of making the "everyday" exciting. It doesn't take a lot of money or effort - just a commitment to making our relationship special by paying attention to it and a willingness to make (here is the four-letter secret)... T-I-M-E Romance keeps the spark alive. It keeps a relationship vital and interesting. And... it takes time! Nurturing your relationship, enhancing it, and keeping it flourishing takes time, which is all too precious for many couples. But by establishing priorities and setting goals, by making better use of the time you have, and by creating time you thought you didn't have, you CAN find more time for each other. The first thing to do is prioritize! You can spend your time in one of four ways, doing things that are: Important and urgent (such as caring for your child that has fallen down and is bleeding); Important but not urgent (sitting together sharing about your day); Not important but urgent (taking your suit for dry cleaning, before tomorrow's meeting); Not important and not urgent (switching on the TV and zapping between the channels). When you look at all your time-consuming tasks, let go of any task that is not important. By focusing most of your time on doing what is important but not urgent, you can eliminate a lot of the crises (important and urgent) as well as the unimportant things. Your perspective on what constitutes "urgent" will also change. Here are a few important, but not urgent, activities to put high on your priority list: 1. Have a regular daily chat. Turn off the TV and the cell phone and sit together for a short time, uninterrupted and face-to-face, every day to share your thoughts and feelings. Tell each other the little details as well as the big news. Focusing on each other for as little as fifteen minutes can make a huge difference. You will both feel appreciated and heard. 2. Spend one evening together each week. Plan a specific night each week for your special date. Get a babysitter or trade childcare time with a friend. Once scheduled, treat the commitment as if it were written in stone. Don't break the date! Take turns planning the activity (and occasionally surprise each other). Take in a movie, go for a bike ride, have a bubble bath, dance in your kitchen. Whether it's a dress-up home-cooked meal or a picnic dinner on the living room floor, make it special. It doesn't have to be expensive, just generous. 3. Spend some "day" time together. Get up earlier than normal and have breakfast together at a coffee shop. Commute together if at all possible. Meet at lunchtime for a quiet meal or a ""stolen moment"". Rendezvous after work for a drink and an appetizer before dinner. Meet at a park for a walk in the fresh air. You'll be surprised how lively conversation can become when you're meeting in the middle of the day, away from the household chores. The anticipation of a planned evening or activity can be fun and exciting, even if (especially if!) you've been together for a long time. By making a date, you'll set aside the special time your relationship deserves and rediscover the romance that started it all. One day, a poor boy who was selling goods from door to door to pay his way through school, found he had only one thin dime left, and he was hungry.He decided he would ask for a meal at the next house. However, he lost his nerve when a lovely young woman opened the door.
Instead of a meal he asked for a drink of water. She thought he looked hungry so brought him a large glass of milk. He drank it so slowly, and then asked, How much do I owe you?"
You don't owe me anything," she replied. "Mother has taught us never to accept pay for a kindness."
He said ... "Then I thank you from my heart."
As Howard Kelly left that house, he not only felt stronger physically, but his faith in God and man was strong also. He had been ready to give up and quit.
Many year's later that same young woman became critically ill. The local doctors were baffled. They finally sent her to the big city, where they called in specialists to study her rare disease.
Dr. Howard Kelly was called in for the consultation. When he heard the name of the town she came from, a strange light filled his eyes.
Immediately he rose and went down the hall of the hospital to her room.
Dressed in his doctor's gown he went in to see her. He recognized her at once.
He went back to the consultation room determined to do his best to save her life. From that day he gave special attention to her case.
After a long struggle, the battle was won.
Dr. Kelly requested the business office to pass the final bill to him for approval. He looked at it, then wrote something on the edge and the bill was sent to her room. She feared to open it, for she was sure it would take the rest of her life to pay for it all. Finally she looked, and something caught her attention on the side of the bill. She read these words ...
"Paid in full with one glass of milk"
(Signed) Dr. Howard Kelly.
Tears of joy flooded her eyes as her happy heart prayed: "Thank You,God, that Your love has spread broad through human hearts and hands."
There's a saying which goes something like this: Bread cast on the waters comes back to you. The good deed you do today may benefit you or someone you love at the least expected time. If you never see the deed again at least you will have made the world a better place - And, after all, isn't that what life is all about?
Now you have two choices.
1. You can send this page on and spread a positive message. 2. Or ignore it and pretend it never touched your heart. The hardest thing to learn in life is which bridge to cross and which -- To burn .. Â During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said,â How do I know if I married the right person?"
I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, "It depends. Is that your husband?" In all seriousness, she answered, âHow do you know?"
Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind. Here's the answer.
Every relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies.
Falling in love with your spouse wasnât hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love⦠Because it's happening to you.
People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." Think about the imagery of that expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened to you.
Falling is love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It's the natural cycle of every relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.
The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry the right person?" And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment.
Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, church, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does not lie outside your marriage.
It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldnât fall in love with someone else. You could. And temporarily you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because:
"THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND." Sustaining love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll never just happen to you. You can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it day in and day out. That's why we have the expression "the labor of love."
Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes wisdom. You have to know what to do to make your marriage work, make no mistake about it. Love is not a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.
Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship will make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable... you can "make" love.
Love in marriage is indeed aâdecision"... Not just a feeling. by Jessica Player Eliminated
The feeling of a paintball hitting your skin
feels like a car hitting a brick wall,
taste like a habanero pepper in the middle of the summer,
looks like an old maid dusting the rug,
smells like a skunk in the road,
a paintball hitting your skin sounds like Jack Johnson hitting Mike tyson with a left hook.
i thought it was ok... besides its just for a grade  âBe humble. Donât take credit for shots because itâs the whole teamâs effort that allowed you to get the shot in the first place. Keep the bragging to yourself.â â Bea Young, Destiny  What if we could fly away?
Swim among the stars,
Feel the warmth of other suns-
Suns so near and yet so far.
What if we could touch the sky?
Speak the language of the trees?
Hear the branches whisper words
As they flutter in the breeze.
What if we could fight a storm?
Bellow back its angry cry,
Smite the mighty lightening bolts -
Strike them from the sky?
What if we could be the forest?
Harmony the robin's song?
Keep in all the good and right?
Banish everything evil and wrong?
What if we could fly away?
Embrace the starry sky?
Swim in waters of other seas?
Oh, what if we could fly? Crossroads
by Tara Simms
There were promises made in childhood,
In the days of their innocence.
They laughed, they played, they cried. Throughout high school dramas,
Broken hearts, and adolescence,
Their special friendship thrived. The little girls grew up and
Became wives and mothers.
It happened in an instant. They gave bridal and baby showers,
Each advising the other.
Still close across the distance. One day, the inevitable happened,
An event that changed their lives.
It had the power to destroy. They were both the betrayed and betrayer.
Can their friendship survive?
Or will they live with the void? | |
